21 points of Benefits about the Manners of Kissing
- Kissing a non-Mahram person is the Zina of the lips
- There are authentic hadeeth that show spouses kissing each other are among the best ways of intimacy.
- It’s not permissible for a man to kiss his fiancée before marriage.
- It’s not permissible for a man to kiss the female cousin on the father’s or mother’s side.
- A woman can’t prevent her husband from kissing her at all.
- It’s not permissible for a non Muslim female to kiss a Muslimah.
- Kissing doesn’t invalidate a person’s state of Wudu.
- A person, who is Mahram to a child can kiss that child . However they mustn’t kiss that child on the mouth. The same rule applies for kissing your mother-in law, etc. and nonetheless, this kissing shouldn’t be done excessively. So, what’s intended is a kiss on the cheek.
- The husband and the wife can kiss each other any where they like, except the areas that are physically and morally shameful. In other words they shouldn’t act like animals.
- The only non-living that can be kissed is the Black Stone. That means a person shouldn’t kiss Baital Maqdis, A tomb, or the Maqam Al-Ibrahim.
- A person mustn’t kiss the Quran or other books of knowledge; as this act hasn’t been authentically reported on the Salaf.
- The Scholars in Fiqh unanimously agree that it’s permissible to kiss a minor, even if it’s a non-Mahram child. The non-Mahram child which you might kiss must be under the age of nine, and by kissing him or her you don’t get aroused. Otherwise you can’t kiss them.
- If a man has more than one wife, he doesn’t have to kiss each one of his wives equally.
- It’s haraam for a man to kiss another man on the mouth.
- A Parent can kiss their child, regardless if they are a boy or girl. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) kissed Al-Hasan ibn Ali and Abu Bakr kissed Aisha (may Allah be pleased with them both)
- It’s permissible to kiss a scholar,and a just ruler on the head, cheek or hand out of respect. And this act can also be done to someone who is bidding a farewell or returning after a journey.
- A woman can kiss her Muslim sister on the cheek when they meet or when they part, however this shouldn’t become a norm. i.e every time they meet they kiss each other on the cheek.
- It’s permissible to kiss the deceased due to sympathy and compassion. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) kissed Uthman ibn Math’un while he was dead. The tears were flowing from Muhammad’s (peace and blessings be upon him) eyes when he kissed him. Also Abu Bakr kissed the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) after he died and cried and his funeral
- If you are unable to kiss the black stone, but you are able to touch it, you can kiss your hand. This act is recommended.
- If a man is in the state of Ihram during Hajj he can kiss and touch his wife to show compassion, mercy, or generosity. When he does these acts in this fashion, then his Hajj is correct. He must not touch or kiss his wife due to a sexual desire while in the state of Ihram.
- If a woman is in her ‘Iddah of the first or second divorce, her husband can take her back by simply kissing her with the intention of taking her back.
Taken from “ Ithaafu Ahulil Qiblati bi Ahkamil Qublati” Written by Abu Salah Muhammad Hesham Al-Afghani.(may Allah reward him)
Shaykh Ubayd Al-Jabiree (may Allah preserve him) said, “I have read the book, “Ithaafu Ahulil Qiblati bi Ahkamil Qublti.” written by our brother, our student, and companion: Abu Salah Muhammad Hesham Al-Afghani. This research hit the target; as it contains most of the important topics for this subject, in fact it contains all the subjects…
Translated by Abu Aaliyah Abdullah ibn Dwight Battle Sr.
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