The Legislated Social Interactions for Muslims with non-Muslims # 5

The Legislated Social Interactions for Muslims with non-Muslims

The Command to Visit non-Muslim Parents

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Allah said: Verily, Allah enjoins Al-Adl (i.e. justice and worshiping none but Allah Alone – Islamic Monotheism) and Al-Ihsan [i.e. to be patient in performing your duties to Allah, totally for Allah’s sake and in accordance with the Sunnah (legal ways) of the Prophet  in a perfect manner], and giving (help) to kith and kin (i.e. all that Allah has ordered you to give them e.g., wealth, visiting, looking after them, or any other kind of help, etc.) [1]

عَنْ أَسْمَاءَ بِنْتِ أَبِي بَكْرٍ ، رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَتْ قَدِمَتْ عَلَيَّ أُمِّي وَهْيَ مُشْرِكَةٌ فِي عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَاسْتَفْتَيْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قُلْتُ { إِنَّ أُمِّي قَدِمَتْ } وَهْيَ رَاغِبَةٌ أَفَأَصِلُ أُمِّي قَالَ نَعَمْ صِلِي أُمَّكِ

Asma’ Bint Abee Bakr :

“My mother who was a Mushrikah (pagan, etc.), came during the period of the peace pact between the Muslims and the Quraish infidels. I went to seek the advice of the Prophet (ﷺ) saying, “My mother has arrived and she is hoping (for my favor).” The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “Yes, be good to your mother.”[2]

Important Directives for this topic

  • Asma bint Abee Bakr As-Sideeq(radi Allahu anhuma) was the daughter of Abu Bakr’s wife from Jahiliyah and they divorced during that period as well. Asma had a brother named Abdullah from the same mother, whose name was Qutaylah. Asma married Az-Zubair and together they had children and got divorced. After the divorce Asma remained with her son Abdullah until he was killed and the following night after his murder she died as well from her illness. She was 100 years old at the time of her death.[3]


  • and giving (help) to kith and kin “ Ibn Jarir At-Tabari said: This refers to giving all kinfolks the help Allah has ordained on you to give them since they are your relatives. [4]


  • “she is hoping (for my favor)…” some scholars said this means she was desiring to become a Muslim while others have said it suggests her mother wanted some gifts from her since she hadn’t seen her daughter in a while. The Prophet (ﷺ) ordered her to visit in order to soften her heart towards Islam.


  • This hadith confirms that the Muslims can and must visit their non-Muslim relatives.


  • Offering help and assistance for non-Muslim relatives allows the person to earn two rewards; one reward for charity and the second for maintaining family ties.[5]


  • This hadith shows that a person must ask the people of knowledge about issues he doesn’t know and must always seek advice before doing something. Asma said, I went to seek the advice of the Prophet…”


  • This hadith is a reference for the permissibility of giving non-Muslims gifts; as long as the gift doesn’t give them the upper hand over Muslims.[6]

Prepared by Abu Aaliyah Abdullah ibn Dwight

Doha,Qatar 1437(c)


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[1] Quran :An-nahl: 90

[2] Sahih Al-Bukhari # 2474

[3] صوة الصفوة /1 page 91

[4] جامع البيان

[5] شرح رياض الصالحين /5 page 222-223

[6] منحة الملك الخليل شرح صحيح محمد بن اسمائيل / 5pg 431